That afternoon of March 10, 1991, complications had forced Diana, only
24-weeks pregnant,
to undergo an emergency cesarean to deliver the couple's new daughter,
Danae Lu Blessing.
At 12 inches long and weighing only one pound and nine ounces, they
already knew that she
was perilously premature. Still, the doctors soft words dropped like
bombs. "I don't think that
she is going to make it," he said, as kindly as he could. "There is
only a 10-percent chance that
she will make it through the night, and even then, if by some slim
chance she does make it, her
future could be a very cruel one."
Numb with disbelief, David and Diana listened to the doctor as he described
the devastating
problems Danae would likely face if she survived. She would never walk.
She would never talk.
She would probably be blind. She would certainly be prone to other
catastrophic conditions from
cerebal palsy to complete mental retardation. And on and on.
"No! No!" was all Diana could say. She and David, with their 5-year-old
son Dustin, had long
dreamed of the day they would have a daughter to become a family of
four. Now, within a matter
of hours, that dream was slipping away.
Through the dark hours of morning, as Danae held onto life by the thinnest
thread, Diana slipped
in and out of drugged sleep, growing more and more determined that
their tiny daughter would live...
and live to be a happy, healthy young girl. But David, fully awake
and listening to additional dire
details of their daughter's chances of ever leaving the hospital alive,
much less healthy, knew he
must confront his wife with the inevitable.
"David walked in and said that we needed to talk about making funeral
arrangements," Diana
remembers, "I felt so bad for him because he was doing everything,
trying to include me in what
was going on, but I just would not listen. I couldn't listen."
I said, "No, that is not going to happen, no way! I don't care what
the doctors say! Danae is not
going to die! One day, she will be just fine, and she will be coming
home with us!"
As if willed to live by Diana's determination, Danae clung to life hour
after hour, with the help of
every medical machine and marvel her miniature body could endure. But
those first days passed,
a new agony set in for David and Diana.
Because Danae's underdeveloped nervous system was essentially "raw,"
the lightest kiss or caress
only intensified her discomfort... so they couldn't even cradle their
tiny baby against their chests to
offer the strength of their love. All they could do, as Danae struggled
alone beneath the ultraviolet
light in the tangle of tubes and wires, was to pray that God would
stay close to their precious little
girl.
There was never a moment when Danae grew stronger. But as the weeks
went by, she did slowly
gain an once of weight here and an once of strength there. At
last, when Danae turned two months
old, her parents were able to hold her in their arms for the very first
time. And two months later,
though the doctors continued to gently but grimly warn that her chances
of surviving, much less living
any kind of normal life, were next to zero, Danae went home from the
hospital, just as her mother
had predicted.
Today, seven years later, Danae is a petite but feisty little girl with
glittering gray eyes and an
unquenchable zest for life. She shows no signs, whatsoever, of any
mental or physical impairments.
Simply, she is everything a little girl can be and more... but that
happy ending is far from the end of her
story.
One blistering afternoon in the summer of 1996 near her home in Irving,
Texas, Danae was
sitting in her mother's lap in the bleachers of a local ballpark where
her brother Dustin's baseball team
was practicing. As always, Danae was chattering non-stop with her mother
and several other adults
sitting nearby when suddenly she fell silent.
Hugging her arms across her chest, Danae asked, "Do you smell that?"
Smelling the air and detecting the approach of a thunderstorm, Diana replied, "Yes, it smells like rain."
Danae closed her eyes and again asked, "Do you smell that?"
Once again her mother replied, "Yes, I think we are about to get wet. It smells like rain."
Still caught in the moment, Danae shook her head, patted her thin shoulders
with her small hands and
loudly announced, "No, it smells like him. It smells like God when
you lay your head on his chest."
Tears blurred Diana's eyes as Danae then happily hopped down to play
with the other children before
the rains came. Her daughter's words confirmed Diana and all the members
of the extended Blessing
family had known, at least in their hearts, all along. During
those long days and nights of Danae's first
two months of her life when her nerves were too sensitive for them
to touch her, God was holding
Danae on his chest... and it is his loving scent that she remembers
so well.